Showing posts with label reads. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reads. Show all posts

Thursday, June 9, 2011

it feels like a nightmare...

i've been visiting de hospital lately...life really hasn't been as sunny as before.

while i welcome my godson lucas and was overjoyed 2 weeks ago (26/5), this week i have to brave myself with news that my mama is down with breast cancer. 

when i first heard the news over the phone (6/6), i keep asking myself if i'm having a nightmare (in my head: someone, pls slap me to wake me up, pls). seriously, i wish i wasn't in reality.

while i pick myself up, i started to read up online about the illness, esp when my elder siblings are not in town. i told myself to stay strong, take good care of my mum, and ensure my family copes well with the sudden news.

these are good cancer foods:
1) Tomatoes
2) Blueberries
3) Red cabbage, red beets
4) Spinach **
5) Garlic **
6) Whole wheat
7) Oranges
8) Strawberries
9) Beans (esp soya beans) **
10) Olive oil **
** esp for breast cancer

i also have to encourage my mum to take high fiber foods... fresh fruits, vegetables and whole grains (bread, flour, rice, dark brown sugar), and avoid salt. she has to stay physically active and maintain healthy weight to build her immunity.

i'm planning to get iPad 2 for her to play games, and e-cigarettes to help her cut down smoking and eventually quit someday.
 
having read tuesdays with morrie, i learn to cherish every moment with my beloved mum now. what's important is not how long more she can or will live, but how happy she can be in the days ahead. understand that the treatment period will be the most demoralising period for a cancer patient. its high time for me to spend more time with her and my family. 

i'm thankful now that i'm not selected for the US trip. perhaps this is what was planned for me.
 
frenz, pls send your parents for regular checkups (if they are above 50 years old), as certain illness are difficult to detect. force them if you really need to. apparently breast cancer affects 1 in 17 women in singapore. early detection is often less complicated and easier to cure.

thank you all who have asked and cared for me in one way or another. i will take good care of myself. if you would like to help me, do share with me anything i should take note of.

here are some useful reads:





Wednesday, February 2, 2011

seriOus stuff

OP-ED COLUMNIST


Serious in Singapore

By THOMAS L. FRIEDMAN

Published: January 29, 2011

Singapore


Josh Haner/The New York Times

Thomas L. Friedman



I am in the Gan Eng Seng Primary School in a middle-class neighborhood of Singapore, and the principal, A. W. Ai Ling, has me visiting a fifth-grade science class. All the 11-year-old boys and girls are wearing junior white lab coats with their names on them. Outside in the hall, yellow police tape has blocked off a “crime scene” and lying on a floor, bloodied, is a fake body that has been murdered. The class is learning about DNA through the use of fingerprints, and their science teacher has turned the students into little C.S.I. detectives. They have to collect fingerprints from the scene and then break them down.

I missed that DNA lesson when I was in fifth grade. When I asked the principal whether this was part of the national curriculum, she said no. She just had a great science teacher, she said, and was aware that Singapore was making a big push to expand its biotech industries and thought it would be good to push her students in the same direction early. A couple of them checked my fingerprints. I was innocent — but impressed.

This was just an average public school, but the principal had made her own connections between “what world am I living in,” “where is my country trying to go in that world” and, therefore, “what should I teach in fifth-grade science.”

I was struck because that kind of linkage is so often missing in U.S. politics today. Republicans favor deep cuts in government spending, while so far exempting Medicare, Social Security and the defense budget. Not only is that not realistic, but it basically says that our nation’s priorities should be to fund retirement homes for older people rather than better schools for younger people and that we should build new schools in Afghanistan before Alabama.

President Obama just laid out a smart and compelling vision of where our priorities should be. But he did not spell out how and where we will have to both cut and invest — really intelligently and at a large scale — to deliver on his vision.

Singapore is tiny and by no means a U.S.-style democracy. Yet, like America, it has a multiethnic population — Chinese, Indian and Malay — with a big working class. It has no natural resources and even has to import sand for building. But today its per capita income is just below U.S. levels, built with high-end manufacturing, services and exports. The country’s economy grew last year at 14.7 percent, led by biomedical exports. How?

If Singapore has one thing to teach America, it is about taking governing seriously, relentlessly asking: What world are we living in and how do we adapt to thrive. “We’re like someone living in a hut without any insulation,” explained Tan Kong Yam, an economist. “We feel every change in the wind or the temperature and have to adapt. You Americans are still living in a brick house with central heating and don’t have to be so responsive.” And we have not been.

Singapore probably has the freest market in the world; it doesn’t believe in import tariffs, minimum wages or unemployment insurance. But it believes regulators need to make sure markets work properly — because they can’t on their own — and it subsidizes homeownership and education to give everyone a foundation to become self-reliant. Singapore copied the German model that strives to put everyone who graduates from high school on a track for higher education, but only about 40 percent go to universities. Others are tracked to polytechnics or vocational institutes, so the vast majority graduate with the skills to get a job, whether it be as a plumber or a scientist.

Explained Ravi Menon, the Permanent Secretary of Singapore’s Ministry of Trade and Industry: “The two ‘isms’ that perhaps best describe Singapore’s approach are: pragmatism — an emphasis on what works in practice rather than abstract theory; and eclecticism — a willingness to adapt to the local context best practices from around the world.”

It is a sophisticated mix of radical free-market and nanny state that requires sophisticated policy makers to implement, which is why politics here is not treated as sports or entertainment. Top bureaucrats and cabinet ministers have their pay linked to top private sector wages, so most make well over $1 million a year, and their bonuses are tied to the country’s annual G.D.P. growth rate. It means the government can attract high-quality professionals and corruption is low.

America never would or should copy Singapore’s less-than-free politics. But Singapore has something to teach us about “attitude” — about taking governing seriously and thinking strategically. We used to do that and must again because our little brick house with central heating is not going to be resistant to the storms much longer.

“There is real puzzlement here about America today,” said Kishore Mahbubani, dean of the Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy, “because we learned all about what it takes to build a well-functioning society from you. Many of our top officials are graduates of the Kennedy School at Harvard. They just came back home and applied its lessons vigorously.”

A version of this op-ed appeared in print on January 30, 2011, on page WK8 of the New York edition.

(de great teacher is none other than my sis! who complains tat she kana arrow by her boss for a last min dropby visit by a fame columnist! she's so proud for being featured as de columnist oso visited hwa chong but didnt mention dem...i told her cos a middle class school wld fit in his article...dun tink too much haha!)

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Friday, October 2, 2009

it's a year!!


phew time flies! today is jOanie-san's 1st anniversary...
i wish for:
*WORLD PEACE*
>scissOr sign!!<
aiya realise i haven been pokie-dokie-ing!
wil blOg on more polka-dOts...sooN!

Thursday, August 13, 2009

plan? don't plan? plan?

i live my life withOut any plans...remembered when i was young, i didn't have any ambition...except that i almost wanted to be an architect after my jc days...29 years on, i think i'm still drifting around in life, quite aimlessly...do i work to live? or do i live to work?

Find these wOrds very encouraging...

"Make as few plans as you can - none at all, if possible. Life is a vast series of events too random for any human being to anticipate. If nothing is happening, then do nothing. When the right opportunity comes by, we must not be too busy planning to grab it and make the most if it."
- adrian, 43, lawyer

tot i can grab de offer to work in perth for de next 2 years...seems like its not destined to be...let me wait for another opportunity...

Sunday, November 23, 2008

too much TV = unhappiness?

NEW YORK:

Happy people spend a lot of time socialising, going to church and reading newspapers - but they do not spend a lot of time watching television, a new study has found.

That is what unhappy people do.


The University of Maryland analysed 34 years of data collected from more than 45,000 participants and found that watching TV might make you feel good in the short term, but is more likely to lead to overall unhappiness.

'The pattern for daily TV use is particularly dramatic, with 'not happy' people estimating over 30per cent more TV hours per day than 'very happy' people,' the study said.

'Television viewing is a pleasurable enough activity with no lasting benefit, and it pushes aside time spent in other activities - ones that might be less immediately pleasurable, but that would provide long-term benefits in one's condition. In other words, TV does cause people to be less happy.'

The study, published in next month's issue of Social Indicators Research, analysed data from thousands of people who recorded their daily activities in diaries over the course of several decades. Researchers found that activities such as sex, reading and socialising correlated with the highest levels of overall happiness.

Watching TV, on the other hand, was the only activity that had a direct correlation with unhappiness.

'We looked at eight to 10 activities that happy people engage in, and for each one, the people who did the activities more - visiting others, going to church, all those things - were more happy,' said Dr John Robinson, co-author of the study. 'TV was the one activity that showed a negative relationship. Unhappy people did it more, and happy people did it less.'

The study said: 'TV is not judgmental or difficult, so people with few social skills or resources for other activities can engage in it.

'Furthermore, chronic unhappiness can be socially and personally debilitating and can interfere with work and most social and personal activities, but even the unhappiest people can click a remote and be passively entertained by TV. In other words, the causal order is reversed for people who watch television; unhappiness leads to television viewing.'

Unhappily married couples also watch more TV: '(Happily married couples) engage in 30per cent more sex, and they attend religious services more, and read newspapers on more days, while those not happy with their marriages watch more TV.'

Commenting on the study, Dr Robinson said the worsening economy could boost TV viewing.

'Through good and bad economic times, our diary studies consistently found that work was the major activity correlate of higher TV viewing hours,' he said.

Since the major predictor of how much time is spent watching television is whether someone works or not, Dr Robinson added, it is possible that rising unemployment will lead to more TV time.
NEW YORK TIMES, REUTERS

(shit i'm guilty of watching lotsa tv! but i dun tink my frens whO dun watch tv are much happier than me leh... is SPH publishing this to 'gek' mediacorp??)

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

quOtes from "tuesdays with morrie" by mitch albOm...

gO read it, if you havent...

(the story is not meant to make one sad.
it taught me the meaning of life.
my tears rolled when i read it back then.
and i know im not the only one.)

"So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half asleep, even when they are busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."

"Once you know how to die, you know how to live."

"The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in..."

"As far as men go, it is not what they are that interests me, but what they can become."

"You're not a wave, you're part of the ocean"

"Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness."

"You see, you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too - Even when you're in the dark. Even when you're falling."

"I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations — one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it — you will regret both."

"Dying is one thing to be sad about, living unhappily is another thing."
"I need to respect my children worlds, or else this disease will have ruined the three of us instead of one."

"The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. and you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work, don't buy it."

"Death takes away life, not relationships."
and relationships can be very fragile - gee from my own experience..


beautiful lessOns from mitch...beri real...but whO really lives by it?

(btw, do they really look like this?)